Single in your 30s? My Top tips to help you find that special someone

If you’re single in your 30s, you may be feeling frustrated as you watch all of your friends and family members find love and settle down. But that perfect someone might be right around the corner- all it takes is some optimism, motivation, and tenacity.

Here are some top tips to help you find that special someone:

Approach dating like a friendship

If you haven’t dated lately (or ever), you may be feeling a little weirded out by the idea that you suddenly need to get a move on. But even if you’re brand new to dating, you’ve still had many other relationships with people in your life in the form of friendships and family. That’s why it’s best to approach dating like finding a new friend. You’re still navigating different dynamics and emotions which you’ve been doing your whole life, and the person you end up with should end up being your best friend anyway.

Don’t put all of your eggs in only one basket

Fight the urge to jump into a relationship with the first person you start dating. Get out in the world, meet many different people, and wait until you find that person who treats you amazing and who’s company you love. Dating is all about meeting lots of people, and you don’t need to be exclusive until you’re ready.

Get out there

You’re not going to find Mr or Ms right unless you’re actually making an effort. Take any opportunity you can to meet people who are also looking for love. Book a last minute singles holiday, go to a speed dating event, or simply sign up for a bunch of dating apps.

Don’t get too excited

It can be easy to get super excited before your first date with someone you’ve been chatting to. But you need to take the emotion out of it and evaluate their personality and the chemistry you have together logically. This is particularly true for people who are meeting others on apps- it can be easy to put a lot of pressure on that first date, and disappointing if it falls flat.

Don’t settle

If you’re ready to settle down, take a deep breath before you go on each date, and remember that it’s better to be single than to settle for someone who will drive you crazy for the rest of your life. Don’t settle for anyone who doesn’t tick all of your important boxes.